Mon, Oct 18 2004 - 12:56 PM EDT

Trust me, you are not the only one with inlaw problems. I moved to TN to be next to my mother in law and so my husband can be close to his mom and it was the worst thing I ever did. (Even my husband agreed). Everything I said was twisted around and made me look bad towards my husband. We were only there for 8 months and came back to CA cause we were so miserable there. Its a good thing that your hubby sticks up for you, cause a lot of men wont do that, especially to their moms.

Tue, Oct 19 2004 - 6:18 PM EDT

Well hubby didn't exactly stick up for me right away. It was AFTER a huge fight with his mom that he had that talk with his parents. I would complain to him when his mother would say a certain remark or do something that was rude to me and all he would say is "Just ignore it, they're old and they're just visiting." I did try to ignore for a while and then I couldn't take it anymore. I exploded. Hubby kept saying he was in the middle. I just think the way his mother acts is not normal behavior. Her son is a grown man, married, about to become a father and she treats him like a little boy. I SWEAR, if I have a boy, who grows up and gets married, I will not do this to him. I will respect him and his wife and give them the privacy that they need.

Thu, Oct 21 2004 - 11:54 AM EDT

I am a little curious. When you are say you and your husband are from different cultures and religions, what is his and yours? You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I was just curious.

Sat, Oct 23 2004 - 10:31 PM EDT

I'd rather not say. But I will say this: our cultures are complete opposites. We met, became friends, then started dating, then fell inlove with each other. Now we're making a family. We never had a single problem with our differences. On the contrary, we learned alot from each other, he learned my language, I learned his, though it's a bit more difficult. I didn't change my religion when I got married because I was comfortable with mine and he was fine with that. We agreed that our child will learn about both our cultures and religion. When he's older he can choose whatever religion he wants. We're both open minded so we'll raise our child to be the same. Unfortunately, our parents were not so open minded. But that's ok, this is our lives not theirs.